There is a true rest in the grace of God when we see that Jesus truly did “pay it all.”
In order to truly dwell in the kingdom of God (and not just visit from time to time), we need to understand what things, situations, relationships, etc. work against our discipleship.
Perhaps we have too low a view of what is happening when a man is blessed of God to preach and teach exactly what we need when we need it.
We cannot bring ourselves to Christ, nor would we have the desire to come to Him. And, even if our loved ones desired that we be raised to spiritual life, they do not have the power to bring us to Christ.