Perhaps we have too low a view of what is happening when a man is blessed of God to preach and teach exactly what we need when we need it.
We cannot bring ourselves to Christ, nor would we have the desire to come to Him. And, even if our loved ones desired that we be raised to spiritual life, they do not have the power to bring us to Christ.
To whatever extent we claim to be a Christian, our walk should be to the same extreme.
God has a very specific number of elect that will be with Him. But that number is huge!