If there were in fact two different resurrections, the perfect time to explain that would have been when Jesus was asked about this parable or when He spoke about it in John, Chapter 5.
We cannot bring ourselves to Christ, nor would we have the desire to come to Him. And, even if our loved ones desired that we be raised to spiritual life, they do not have the power to bring us to Christ.
It never ceases to amaze me how God’s people can make things so difficult for themselves. The Bible clearly teaches that Jesus will come without sin unto salvation in a very loud and visible way at the end of time.